Moving at any point in life can be an unnerving experience. But what happens when one finds oneself having to take the lead to move one or both parents from their home due to life-changing circumstances? Older parents decide to move for many reasons. Some want to "downsize" to a home that's easier to maintain, while others move to be closer to their children and grandchildren.

In many cases, failing health creates a need for help that isn't available in the current home. Those in that situation often turn to senior-oriented independent living communities, assisted living facilities or private homes near relatives who can serve as caregivers.

Regardless of why a move is needed, families should have a relocation plan created in advance, based on input from all involved.

The plan should include when a move will happen; how property will be redistribute, if necessary; and how to establish relationships with a new set of health-care providers.

Those who find themselves in the position of moving parents should consider the following.

• Show respect and patience. Understand that it's stressful for anyone to move from their home of several decades. Parents may be letting go of many meaningful items in their lives, including possessions, familiar routines and neighbors. They also may fear losing their independence and freedom.

And after the move, scheduling conflicts are likely for caregivers as they try to budget time between their needs and those of their parents.

• Help in planning and organizing after the move. If parents are moving to a smaller living space, be patient and supportive as they decide what to keep and what to part with.

• Take time to share memories. Don't rush the moving-out process. While packing, make time to talk with parents and share stories about their years in the family home.

• Consider hiring a moving specialist. Companies specializing in moving seniors make it their business to be sensitive to the needs of older clients and their families.

• Be upbeat. Finally, focus on the positive aspects of the move. Empathy, understanding and an upbeat approach can keep the experience from being harder than it already is for parents.